What’s loved will be lost if what’s loved doesn’t know.
There are going to be a lot of opportunities in life to “do the right thing.” The obsession with revenge, fixing, and seeking justice is going to be thrown your way daily. I offer these words in hope to bring solace to your near future. Although I do believe you need to do what’s right, here are ways to know How to Move on With Life and Let Go of the Small Stuff:
Why Moving on is Important
The World needs you; it needs your energy, focus and determination. You have a family, you have friends, and you have your dreams to conquer. Dwelling on the small things in life will constantly hold you back and tear your focus from what is truly important in your journeys.
What is considered small and how do you move on?
Most of us understand the reasons to move on, but identifying when things just bring hardship is the more difficult part. Here is a list of suggestions to help determine when the problem needs to be brushed aside, and how to move on when you can’t:
Your capacity to forgive will determine your power to continue.
Isn’t it incredible that our top employees, the ones that we lean on the most, we often forget to recognize? We don’t even do it on purpose; those we count on, we often assume they don’t need reinforcement. Usually high performers will carry on without much frustration, but everyone deserves a pat on the back. Let’s perform a reality-check and review How to Ensure You Aren’t Taking Employees for Granted:
Reasons we don’t show appreciation for employees:
- Employee doesn’t get excited when recognized
- Performance improvement isn’t as strong as a leader wanted
- A leader doesn’t value the employee in general
- Employee’s performance is always excellent therefore it’s expected
- Leader doesn’t get recognition themselves
How to guarantee appreciation:
- Make it a priority to understand what is important to each employee so when they accomplish something important, you are celebrating with them
- Even small wins are crucial to show appreciation for effort, positive reinforcement will help drive ongoing improvement
- Everyone appreciates recognition and gratitude, even those who make it awkward; later on employees will feel valued and appreciated
- Even when a leader doesn’t feel recognized themselves, taking it out on employees causes ongoing toxic environments
- Never take high performing associates for granted, their success is greatly due to challenge and reward – never forget to admire their accomplishments
Ensure your teams are getting proper opportunity to reflect on their own accomplishments. Get to know your teams and what motivates them. Understanding how your team feels and operates equips you to make them feel valued. The perception that a leader doesn’t celebrate is not a good reputation to have. Reach out to your employees and make sure you are showing them how much you care.
Michael Dooleyleaderdevelopmentblog.com T-https://twitter.com/MdooleyBlog F-https://www.facebook.com/leaderdevelopmentblog Question: what have you done to show appreciation for your employees?
I wanted to stretch our understanding of what it looks like to be a selfish leader. Most of us can identify the obvious behaviors of selfish people, but I wanted to stick with the selfish business practices alone. Review the following 5 Traits of a Selfish Leader:
- Takes all the credit: leaders that constantly steal the glory of team member’s success. This is a dangerous and foolish error on a leader’s part because it demolishes trust and will prevent future collaboration and employee effort.
- Sabotages promotions for personal gain: even when employees are developed and ready to be shipped on to their next challenge leaders can find reasons to selfishly hold them back. Everyone has opportunities to grow, but leveraging strengths rather than finding minute problems will maximize employee’s development and career. It’s a leader’s responsibility to promote employees when they’re ready, and not hold them back due to selfish gains.
- Hoards best practices: leaders that learn best practices and refuse to share will often find themselves in quick wins yet guaranteed loss. Sharing with others is a way to show unselfish collaboration and care for other employees. The competitive edge in business is far less impacting than the willingness to help others win.
- Avoids flexibility: each manager must balance their tolerance and ability to show flexibility. When leaders become so fixated on policy they lose their sense of empathy, employees lose their connection to their leader. There is a fine line, but when an employee truly needs flexibility once in a while, try to accommodate and show you care.
- Avoids other’s views: the most common use of selfishness in business is anti-collaboration. When those who view things differently get shunned from discussion, a leader shows their inability to gain additional perspective. Teamwork and inclusion of other’s opinions are incredibly important to consider in order to grow diverse and powerful teams.
Selfishness is off-putting and often difficult to self-diagnose. Often we justify the behaviors mentioned above for ridiculous reasons that mean nothing to our teams. Try to analyze your previous interactions and decisions of the current quarter and determine if you are guilty of these traits of a selfish leader. Partner with those who might not be like you, and focus on developing daily.
Michael Dooleyleaderdevelopmentblog.com T-https://twitter.com/MdooleyBlog F-https://www.facebook.com/leaderdevelopmentblog Question: What other traits do selfish leaders demonstrate?